To answer: "What can I do for you?"...

I've thought about this. It is difficult, at best, for me to ask for help. I'm one who prefers to do things on my own, and, I often do for others. So, for this question, "What can I do for you?", I finally have answers.

I like that you'd like to bring me dinner. And stay for that dinner you brought, okay? I'd like your company. You don't have to drop it off at the door and go. Call me and say, "Hey, I'm grabbing a pizza - can I share it with you?" I like it that you invite me over. I like that you baked cookies and seem to have a few extra. I like that you know I like red wine, especially a good Malbec... ...and that I like that Malbec with dark chocolate.

I'd like if you said, "Hey, let's get a coffee" and swung by to pick me up. Or go for a walk.

I need the feel-good, I'm taking-care-of-myself things: Massage. A massage (at the Huntsman) is $40 for cancer patients. Massages are luxuries that help to relieve stress. Facials.

Pedicures - we can go together.

I like that you send me... ...upbeat greeting cards in the mail.

...And gift cards, so I can order something I need online - like a cute beanie - because I'm not a turban or headscarf person. ... a code to download a book or music on my iPad. ...and candles.

I like that you.. ...are aware that this is tough for my family, too. ...and if you are doing something cool, that a son would like, that perhaps, our boys can enjoy a day together, so my boy(s) would have a break. ...ignore that my home is not perfectly neat.

I'd like if you don't... ... bring up horrible outcome cancer stories about your great Uncle Ted. This is hard enough. I need to be built up and optimistic, not torn down by fear of the unknown and pessimism.